Its just unreal. She would just have to get more bulldogs as she seemed to adore that sickly breed (no such thing as a healthy bulldog) and have a revolving door of bulldogs and loneliness unless she finds someone as obsessed about bulldogs as she is and then they can both have their revolving door of them! I find it so upsetting when people equate dogs to children. If you put the dog in his kennel to run up to the store even for a few seconds you have to turn the kennel towards the wall and push the couch behind it otherwise he escapes and destroys the house. I soon after became pregnant. So he wont correct the DAMN thing when its wrong. I even made the dog my responsibility at times just to help us out but it does nothing but drive me mad because it shouldnt be my problem. Or when your dog is allowed to claw people, hump, jump on, bark at, ect ect what looks cool about this? I read about training and raw food and Chihuahuas themselves. Im losing my mind. I also told him that he will be responsible for paying her vet bills, buying and bringing her dog food, etc. Choosing any dog over your spouse/ love makes you a crazy and horrible person. At first, I loved her. And all the attention/energy you are giving it. He wants her on the couch all the time even though she is always peeing on herself and dirty. Hes told to stop, etc; which really does nothing anymore, cause hes use to being allowed to do what he wants. My husband was mean to her I found out later as he apologized. Email: [emailprotected]. After the second year of marriage I began to realize that my wifes focus was more on her dogs than on me. Obedience training. He has arthritis really bad where you can see he is in discomfort and even when he drinks or eats, he cant stand up perfectly straight. Getting 5 hours of sleep because the dogs are up making noise or birds chirping, it gets old real fast. Bf still makes attempts to pretend it was ME. Dogs are animals! He obsesses over every detail related to this dog what it eats, what it plays with, where it is, how often it poops, etc. I am at the stage now where I am sick of hearing that I am a slave to my dog that my dog runs my life and that he is sick of hair on his pants I have a non shedding breed. she even comes into the car for whatever we do, everytime he picks me up for anything she will be sitting in the passenger side.. i ask him does she really need to go everywhere with us but he just gets in a mood with me. Provide sufficient exercises on a daily basis. Her reply was as expected, to the tune of, if my dog has to go, I go. That means, they just have to bark and misbehave and she will cave! Most importantly, never sell yourself short and allow yourself to be second best. Ive been married 16 years. I let her out first thing in the morning but if I dont wake up early enough she just goes. Being over attached with the dog over husband and giving priority to the dog arent one of them. I offered to pay for a local dog whisperer to come into the situation as many times as needed to address a compromise but she wouldnt think of it. Never a problem. This is a lab by the way so not a small dog. I just cant do it anymore! These dogs have done $8,000 to my brand new home and this has destroyed what should have been a great time in our lives and a time of healing. Its the easy way out. My brother-in-law once said, "My wife's priorities are: 1. I had an old gal Boxer when I married my husband. That was ages ago and I still fester over it. Break up. Its a warped relationship Watch for pictures of the animal everywhere and how he or she speaks about their pet. The damn creature will go down, spend an inordinate amount of time staring at blank air, and practically doing anything but what it was crying to do earlier in the house. Period! This decreases the amount of time and emotional energy you have available to spend on your relationship with each other. I dont want to smell like dog and I dont want my furniture, sheets, or anything else to smell like dog. He does that too? I honestly just dont know what to do. Each member has a priority level on this pack. The only difference is that my partner has 2 dogs for amusement/pleasure not hobby or nessesity. Sometimes I feel like I am the odd one out now. 7.2M subscribers in the relationship_advice community. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. Unfortunately, the hair is still an issue. Eventually I was allowed in the bed, but OMG. Dump him. But he just tells me we cant give her away. I had a 4 hour commute to work total so I was very busy and am disgusted by picking up dog excrements. Me and my girlfriend have been together half a year. Dog fanatics include both men and women and those who are affected, who put up with the filth, the cost, and the behavior, are also gender-mixed. I make a point of saying, babe I dont like him on the bed and he jumps on the defensive side every bloody time! Then you have the ones who have damn near accused me of animal cruelty because we crate our dog when we have guests. the dog sleeps indoors she has her own bed but will constantly climb on our bed at night. Its just nasty and gross! It doesnt mean he has to get rid of it as a family member has a farm where he takes it everyday to work anyway and the response I got was- its going nowhere and I was evil, so he choose to go with it! But I am aware that he does not treat them equally and my dog has picked that up too. If someone wants to to change/abandon such a big part of your life it is a huge wake up call. Thats when I moved into the 2nd bedroom. Consult a veterinarian: If you feel the shedding is abnormal, consult your veterinarian right away in order to solve the issue. It literally is her loss Jake. Me and my partner have been together for a year, I have a small dog (puggle) and he has a large dog (Rhodesian Ridgeback) its a rescue dog. We get to the room where we meet the dog. Practice Management Software for Therapists, Rules and Ethics of Online Therapy for Therapists, How to Send Appointment Reminders that Work, https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html. Okay so I have a similar situation to Charlie. But the hair still keeps finding its way in anyway. She could have gotten any other breed but it HAD TO be a bulldog! I cant imagine doing that or giving up our relationship. If you argue like that before marriage, it will get much worse! he kept insisting that the dogs had to be on the bed, there was black dirty, a TON of hair and even drips of pee on the sheet! We need a support group to help each other! As you all are probably aware theses types of dogs shed badly, he also smells, and he constantly in the way (when I am trying to get in my car with my toddler and infant.) But, you gotta do that if you really wanna keep the dog. She paws and scratches at my side of th bed all night. I have even volunteered as a charity dog walker to try and alleviate the sadness I feel, but its simply not the same. They wanted the cat back that I wound up having to give to my would be mother in law BC it was just dandy we couldnt have a cat but god forbid we found a place that wouldnt let him keep his dog. The dog is all over the couch, and heaven for bit I leave anything on the couch that might stop the dog from getting on their at night to sleep; which the dog as an orthopedic bed that he bought him. He is well behaved, obedient i took him to puppy classes i give him love he is not spoiled he listens to me. Pancho did this, Pancho did that, its non stop. I accidentally stepped on her foot and caught myself (minimal impact). too much affection drives me nuts. Anyway her dog was very jealous and they both could not School Cohabitate she gave the dog to me.I was to find it a better home. Think about whether the dog is too attached to you. Now onto our 2nd dog. He doesnt feed him, water him, or even acknowledge him except for when he has an accident which may be once a month. You cant change him but you can change yourself. I basically said no more, I am not staying over if the dog is in the bed. I just got done reading this article and all of the comments and its fair to say there are people who love dogs like they are their own children and then there are people who dont understand that at all. I cant imagine that your marriage could fall apart over somebody elses dog and, if it does, there are deeper problems. Humans cannot birth dogs. I dont even know where to start. How did an animal lover end up with an animal hater? Sometimes I got short breathed because of all the dog hair that is flying through the air and I cant sleep because of all the movements on the bed and the noises. Amen! Hahahaha to funny & true! (She needs constant baths due to this) it really grosses me out. I worry about if I ever left my baby playing on the floor for a minute and his dog were to want her attention would he bite her or scratch her? Besides my allergies, Ive always thought dogs were kinda stupid and boring and burdensome . My husband was on board and his only stipulation was that he wanted a dog that stayed small. They think its ok to be controlling but dont like it when that is challenged for good reasons. Remember this a like a giant female Labrador. But, I highly recommend you consult a dog behaviorist prior to meeting a relationship advisor. And jetaime, it only gets worse. You are not crazy!!! If youre the one who brought the pet into the relationship, be prepared to do a little extra work. Beau IS NOT ALLOWED to move from his bed at night because it will wake him up. Well that lasts for about a minute as well. I am actually relieved I left and that was only a few months ago. The dogs are not your children. Heartbroken. I dont know why people like that breed. and gave her one of her chewies, and never again, shes very smary and loyal, she stays close off leash enough to whete I can see her but she can still run after things and be a dog. Ive grown up with a couple Shih Tzus, birds, turtles, snakes, etc. You can love them and even have them live inside but they must be obedient and not treated like a human or hold precedence over them. When theres conflict over pets, getting specific about the problem can help you figure out a solution. She chews the carpet and the doors. Fine. The dog cant stand up for himself but you can. She constantly is dropping her slobbery toys in my lap. We cant go on a cruise because he wants to take IT with us. I was scared. Different breeds were actually bred for different reasons, and its funny because hardly any pet owner actually harnesses that energy and trains their dog what they are bred to do, especially terrier or bully breeds. No significant other should ever feel less worthy than a pet animal in my book. My world fell apart, I even wrote a childrens book about him to try and cope with my grief. How long do puppy blues last and how to overcome? I suggested to go out to eat and she goes, Um, no. I can say this with experience. Telling him that in six years when the dog is dead, and Im not there, what will you regret? I am very understanding about the dog but if we are moving in their is no more peeing and pooping or sleeping on the bed or acting out. 6. I seriously believe its a sort of mental illness that needs to be addressed! They would be flattened like a Roadrunner cartoon by these two beasts. My boyfriend of almost two years has a dog that follows him everywhere begs at our table to the point she is drooling and whining even though I say no. I mean, it is that too but it isnt. A poorly trained dog or aggressive cat is frustrating to everyone, but the person who brought the pet into the relationship is sometimes more sympathetic toand defensive aboutthe pet. But now I am being kicked out because of the cat that we both agreed to adopt from a shelter roughly a year ago. Like ever, even be on the bed and they didnt spend hard hours in school for nothing. I didnt know this when I met her but I thought she would have gotten more normal since she wasnt alone anymore and telling me she found the man of her dreams and how hard it is to meet someone like me but we would get into arguments about the bulldogs? I know what it feels like to be second to the dog. It doesnt matter a puppy or an adult dog. Please help!!! This dog is seriously ruining my life. If Your Boyfriend Doesn't Like Your Dog (Or Vice Versa! I was so afraid that I feared he may have crossed a line he shouldnt have. So, your significant other has a dog, and youve told them that its either the dog or you. Ive had people tell me that Im not a good dog parent(I hate that term) because we dont let him on our furniture. Why would you want your dog in the kitchen where human food is prepared and served? I knew this dog was hurting. Sounds like a perfect case . Itll be soooooooo much worse than it is now and youll wish you hadnt. Ive built them a damn good warn dog house and theyve adapted to the change. He doesnt allow them in anymore and it KILLS ME. I knew he was cuddling her and letting her lick his lips. Not w he is talking about getting a fucking wheelchair for her when her hips give out. I dont want to come home to a house that is pissed and pooped and smells worse like a dog shelther and where I will have to be responsible for cleaning. 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