Being romantic just to get sex will be seen as manipulative. I guess its just a character flaw of his! Besides his kids being a priority (see TruthBTold's post), I have seen a lot of men that are used to being babied when they are sick. It's the thought that matters <3. An the cycle continues. And I'm also feeling better. It wasnt until recently that I found an outlet for all of this junk in my head. This detachment causes children to grow up detached from making intimate friendships and relationships as an adult, to closely love others. If I could boil down the difficulties, it really does come down to lack of love as you described. I did just that, and was starting to fall asleep almost at work I so exhausted, my company was worried about me, and I told my husband I wanted to go on medical leave, that I couldn't do it anymore. They ruin too many peoples lives. WebNo, that's not normal in a loving marriage. His kids are always going to come before you. Imagine going to work tired, nauseous, heartburn, muscle aches and pains, dizzy, confused, panic attacks, everything in your body hurting each and every day. Sign #9: He treats you like everyone else. WebIs it normal for a husband to not take care of his wife when she falls sick? (sorry, another vent) .. So,when it comes to love, what to do, and where to go from here. he gets very angry. Submitted by copingSAH on Mon, 09/29/2014 - 09:42. Some men are selfish creatures. He said it was too clinical and she was cold. Nearly 17% were estranged from a member of their immediate family. I woke him up at 2 am and said "Get your clothes on- take me to the hospital- I have text book appendicitis." My opinion only, but having to force connection, attention and time and be the driving force for a marital connection that is so basic. well, that seems hollow to me also. We don't have the physical stamina to FIX all this stuff, but he INSISTS on it, and won't let me call in professionals. He called me unsubmissive and unchristian. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. But if I need or expect something maybe not so much because it wont register as now/love but as someone upset whether the upsetedness is valid or not. Submitted by MelissaOrlov on Thu, 04/13/2017 - 17:29. Submitted by vabeachgal on Sun, 04/16/2017 - 10:08. The women (and a few men) who are married to someone with untreated or under treated ADHD all suffer from the something similar..A lack of love. Yeah, I remember when she was sick and I was doing everything for her as I just let her rest. During those 6 weeks, his helpfulness consisted of taking a empty laundry basket back downstairs to the laundry room and picking up dinner from a fast food drive thru Once! If they get ill first, and then I get ill? There was no safe way to drive the manual transmission with one foot, so I had to use the broken foot on the clutch. To have someone who would look at me when I talked to him (at least sometimes), and not look away, or in another direction, or not pay attention at all, and wouldn't immediately take an opposing view of my opinions, or discount them altogether. Newly wed so some things are quite new. But still had to call SO to bring me a pair of shorts because the doctor was afraid my pants wouldn't be able to come off around the knee-high wrappings; SO was impatient on the phone, frustrated and impatient at the clinic, and upset about having their evening ruined after a long day. Yeap, but there are moments I'm being shitty too so I thought to myself this is just fair. I'm curious to see a female's perspective on this, especially someone who has been married to see if this holds true. 2 months ago I had a Hysterectomy. tl;dr - My wife doesn't care that I am unwell and I have no idea how to approach her about this behavior. You don't want to marry a man with kids, trust me. Just gotta get used to it! I paid for every cent at that point and insurance for me/him. Yep. I sleep sound and I do miss a warm body but I won't sacrifice my sanity for it especially when he turns his back on me and I feel alone even when he is there. It is a difficult way to have to be for someone whose nature isbenevolent and caring but it seems thesequalities are manipulated by the ADD spouse making the non spousefeel worthless. Isn't THAT ironic? I think many spouses with ADD are extremely selfish and will never realize that a healthy relationship requires compromise, compassion, and patience. Maybe I'm just expecting a bit too much. Terms. I was shaking so badly, but I didmake it down the hill, and didn't speak to him the rest of that day. I can't help but think there is SOMETHING ELSE WRONG WITH HIM. it's not the same as OCD. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. He didn't take me to the hospital, just put me back to bed. No hugs, kisses, attention, praise, cuddling just for cuddlings sake. Been married 13+ yrs and anytime I am sick, according to him I act like I am dying. However, I work andtake care of the house and the kids. Do you have kids that were sick too? I, ME, MINE!! When my wife is sick, I tend to wait on her. Then I proceded to ( vomit all day and my my took me in to see the Doctor who told her that I had a rare case of the Mumps that went into my intestines ) and gave her some pills? Submitted by vabeachgal on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 18:15. I'm glad that's 'not in your nature'except that it is. yuck. No, that's not normal in a loving marriage. Theyve been together for 15 And all my dh could do was go on and on about how much the window was going to cost to replace it, and it was all my fault. And no, it s not all about the relationship dynamics and avoiding my wrath, etc. Submitted by vabeachgal on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 08:25. Always. Submitted by Punkin on Fri, 03/10/2017 - 07:12. Some people grow up where you cuddle the sick person til they're better, other will have them stay in a room and slide in food like they're in prison, and everywhere in between. If you feel leaving him will make you happy then do it. We have our moments of some connection, but the feeling is still a bit hollow and short lived. The only family Im in contact with is my 91-year-old mother who lives an hour away. Later Ilet him know I am very sick and need some help. I was so ill from stress and he never checked on me. 2. They were on their lunch break at the time, and went back to work - taking the automatic transmission car and leaving me with the manual. So yes, I was sick and I gave myself the day and decided to go to work where I am around normal people that dote on me. He love(s) the one he is with..as in.."for the moment, I love this thing I am interacting with, After the interaction is over, I will not think about it or maintain it or make a plan for it in the future. But don't be the version of youthat is currentlyin his face. How would you like her to act? If you are in the full But at the end of the day if it is really bothering you well then you need to talk to him about it and tell him how it made you feel. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. I decided then to leave. Don't worry your anxiety to high and relax. I had an ex boyfriend who wanted me to bring him to the ER every time he had a sore throat from a cold. People are either takers or givers. God, family/friends, my job, my health and then him. Any time I am not at 100% to run the household, restock the coffee, cook meals, put the kids to bed, do the laundry, etc. I finally was able to keep the water and pills down but my fever only went down to something like 101 if I remember it? By then its too late. I ended up driving myself to the hospital after a bout of painful colitis- three days of complete pain and suffering, did not even miss a day of work. Tell your spouse that although you She even acts like I am somehow putting her out by not being 100%. I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. Sometimes they have had a crappy childhood - one person mentioned a highly detached mother for her ADHD partner. He reluctantly came up to the accident sight. I am ok. I see we are out of aspirin and ask him if he knows of any in the house. When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. He might show it in other ways. I don't believe the behavior is intentional in my case. My H, and many others, expect love, support, attention and all the good stuff without being self aware enough to understand that they are not giving it in return and become very angry when it's not provided. It appears you entered an invalid email. But I'm still keeping out of the way and limiting the inconvenience. She was probably raised in a household without empathy for sick people. I have taken you for granted. And here is my confession, for I fall short of a Marvel superhero. and my child will throw up or have a fever. First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! You go through all of this, the burden of having a partner with a chronic illness who is always sick, the worry when I dont text back for a while and you know Im 9. They want something done and over with, right then. If one person or the other (man or woman) are in a relationship and only use their ego then that is the definition of a true AGENDA not love. This is a personality disorder. I felt so good in the beginning, the wanted to die from the guilt and then angry when I realized I was even more codependent with this guy. Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 16:40. That is not an ADHD trait as far as it is with me? The entitlements and abrasive treatment of others. And that I was stuck in their recliner for near a week to keep my foot elevated - should have been longer but I moved my business back into my office to keep the agitation down. I was "out of commission" for 6 weeks. I just need a bit of support lol anyway, my wife won't be back until 4 PM. How would he manage without me, his Bandaid? In the letter I explained that he needed to get help and I was running to save myself. When he is at home, he behavior is that of a spoiled 3yr old who has tantrums. With my dh, he doesn't react well to any kind of situation when his filters are down (and always always at home) -- there was that time when I fell against a window in a freak accident -- breaking my humeris and dislocating my shoulder on the radiator at the same time. We can't FIX some of this stuff on our own. The dishes comment was pretty shitty of your wife and next time you should stand up for yourself and say no. Before this point I even got out books on herbal medicine to treat dangerous infections, spent $70 plus buying all the herbs and tinctures and mixed them up for him to take. After recovering from several hospitalizations, she went on to get a B.A. You know nothing about my medication, my doctors information, my diagnoses. Now I'm going to get sick! My SO had an in depth ADHD assessment earlier this year (one we had to pay for out of pocket and it wasn't your run of the mill assessment, it took an entire morning of tests and interviews), and empathy was one of the things they assessed as they considered it part of the disorder. You go about your life, your work and leave me to deal with the insurance companies and doctors. Yes, the victim mentality and what you said is so true. Emotionless. I haven't been yelled at once while expressing myself. And now that I have, I have a new perspective. Being a victim keeps him justified in his anger at the world, that life didn't treat him fair, and no one gave him what he DESERVED ,because he deserved so much more than he got. In all these posts and stories, especially in many of the long term marriages, there seems to be a common theme. You are very caring and shower her with affection and loveYou respect her parents and treat them wellYou respect your wife and support her to achieve her dreamsYour presence makes her feel happy (because she loves you so much)She considers you as her soulmateShe feels safe and secure to be with youShe trust you so muchMore items He loves, smoking, drinking, games, cars, machines, jokes and flirting. Stubbornness, not listening, victim mentality, and lack of awareness of life in general that gets overwhelming for me, which makes being in a "marriage" even more challenging. THAT, was fear. Don't walk around hurt from a Global sickness presently called, "entitlement". It gets to you after a while I feel lonely most of the day I get really depressed he wants me to clean up all the time when he goes (figues) but I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety it's hard for me to get up to doing simple tasks it's even harder when I have to do it on my own. Confirmed. Hearing him speak kindly of other folks, being gentler in his speech, since he KNOWS how unkind the world can be. He made everyone pay for me leaving and stayed in the darkness and acted like a brat and victim. I know the empathy is in there, but it's overridden by the rest of their experience and the onslaught of perception they constantly have to sort through. Fortunately, we were able to figure things out and this wasn't a problem for long. I know this may sound "corny", lol, but I don't think I'm too off base with this. The texting got out of hand and the rest is history. Consequences. I never get any sympathy from him, but my children hug me, draw me upside down rainbows because I am in pain and can't smile, and try to help me. When I was3 months pregnant, wetook a trip to Mexico. This goes so deep. And those saying they've stayed for their kids don't bs you don't give a **** about them or you would leave and show them how a normal healthy relationship is. Privacy Interesting how blame is still the "go to" tool in their arsenal of engagement. I was in bed all day too weak to get up and walk let alone do anything else. I want to leave him but my family is against it. (Soup after you just threw up is too soon). ExpectingH to become someone he cannot/will not be is futile. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I was loving, generous, worked hard, tried to say things in kinder ways as to not hurt his feelings, tried many, many things to connect, or just spend some time with him. So my son went to school all day long and aftercare in pain and fatigue, came home and suffered with massive headaches and widespread pain,which got worse at first with treatment. Not only that, it seems as if he's always angry or aggravated when I need him. But, he can't get past the victim hood yet. I think that men get used to a female (their mother) taking care of them while they are children, and subconsciously they maintain this view as they get to adulthood. is already like this, it will only get worse. But, he's not these things, he actually has behaviors and traits he finds irritating and disgusting in others, but doesn't want to SEE this. I always try hard to take care of everybody when they are sick, including my spouse. I was still in therapy and my therapist, who is a mutual friend and took me on pro-bono, helped me so much to rebuild my esteem, stop being co-dependent. I really do want out of the marriage but don't have the guts at my age. Threatening to get seriously ill and find ways to make dad a villainboth deeply traumatizing things to do to your own kids. WebIm worried about my chest pain. WebPsychology Today: Health, Help, Happiness + Find a Therapist Maybe she doesnt even realize shes doing it. A place for sharing the for-better and for-worse of marriage. You dont care about my illness. He stormed up to me, angrily, shouting WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING? He refused to tend to me as I was going into shock. And I take. I even passed out in front of my kids on the floor, and they had to yell at him to help me. Now not now and love. Sign #12: He Doesnt Pay For Anything. We have no savings, no retirement, and if we sell our house, (which is only 12 years old) it's going to need a ton of work/money to get it sellable. I m not saying it s right, but I am not putting in the effort for someone who lies to my face about everything. I love(d) H, and love (past, present and future)our children, our grandchildren, art, my business, my home. That's just I have made myself the central focus in our relationship. And my lack of ability to insist on my needs put me in a ditch with a broken neck on my moms 60 birthday. He said I always run to my room when this happens and it will happen again. But in the end, that doesn't matter either. So, for me, this could be more mental illness that just hasn't been diagnosed yet, and he is too afraid to find out anything else other than the "acceptable" ADHD. It was your plan all along to leave me on my own, wasn't it?!". Sometimes it's commitment to dinner hour where you discuss things together (rather than eating alone). When I got to the ER and they did a CAT scan, they said it was about to burst. Don't get me wrong. If my husband had a stomach bug that lasted a few days and he didnt go to the doctor I would probably be like your wife too. After a month of separation, I was so happy that I started packing to go back. Now when Im sick I prefer to be left alone. I thrive from who I am independently although I still try to be a good wife and hold down most of the responsibilities that keep our family looking good for the most part. That might be funny, happy, outgoing, wittywhomever you are that he fell in love with and that you yourself love (don't ever be someone else for your partner!). Gosh, feel better! That's not even in my nature. But just like I learned when I lost my job two years ago, a job I thought defined me, one singular part of my life does not define me. There, youll also find thoughts and questions by our community. Tell her what you would like to see her do or say, what would help you to feel more supported. Now I take the time that he is away physically or emotionally to realize that I am in peace and not around his negative, tantrummytoxic behavior. First, BE a person with whom he would be dying to connect. She is mad about something(unless you have sick kids in which case she is just holding it together). I agree 100%. You never falter. I asked him why he never, ever revealed that to me..no answer. I do agree with you. Yes, I agree, and am in the same place. Submitted by Exhaustedlady87 (not verified) on Fri, 11/15/2019 - 16:54. I drink a gulp of beer and a stoke of cigar and really feel love..for that moment. No words. First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! Or begging him to drive you home. I can understand mentionin I have been raised to tough it out: when you are ill, you do not whine - you just put on a brave face and keep going. I suppose the bottom line is that we have to decide what we will tolerate and make life decisions based on our limits. So he's taking it easy today and napping on and off. He came home from work at 9pm and I said I was throwing up and had terrible stomach cramps etc. He thinks about "whatever", in the moment he's in. Its pretty normalized at the point. So I've (40m) been married ten years now and I love my wife (40f), but she has the most annoying behavior pattern whenever I am sick. Stop selling your soul for sex, money or a sense of security. Ziff Davis, LLC BBB Business Review. I will not beg for attention as I did in the past, crying because I was lonely. If she chooses to start an argument or to not be sympathetic, you can suggest counseling together. I think that it's true. Was she sick recently and you didn't pay attention? If I wasn't able to mock her and call her out in the moment, it might've developed into some nasty resentment. Some of the scorn heaped upon ADHDers by their non-ADHD partners must CERTAINLY be readable in their partner's body languageeven if their partner is trying to be nice. I love sex.while I am in the act of doing it..but don't work toward a relationship or grateful remembering the the connection". Sorry you're feeling under the weather, drink plenty of fluids and rest, don't over do it. Of course my Hcalled right back saying he could not hear his phone(yet his friend heard his on the 2nd ring). Of course, I got no help from him with ANYTHING for the 6 weeks my foot was in the cast. I think the explanation for her behavior lies in a few traits from her background: Latina with history of macho men in her past. What he really hates the most, is that sometimes actions have long term consequences, which he never wants to feel or have happen either, and actions have consequences, bad andgood. I was trying to do something simple. We all experience them. And when things happen to the kids the "mom" is always like I didn't know he would do that to our kids and abuse them even though I did. Guy didnt wish me happy birthday am I wrong to be upset? Really? He will do things like say "You are not sick!!" Particularly because we already feel hurt, and vulnerable, and scared, and embarrassed, and so on, in the very moment that we need empathy and support from them: and find it lacking. I have a high pain threshold and never take any days off sick. Stay away from me!" By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. There is something good though. This has been validating. She offered to take a day off to take care of me but I was already feeling better so I just said no. Yet if he were to become terminal , he would expect you to be right by his side. Yeah, he's not that thoughtful. I agree his kids should come first. But that was a lot of days for him to be unable to make any time for you. My hu I scrolled through my phone contacts and one name popped out, an old mutual friend of ours. You are right. Submitted by ppester1 on Thu, 03/02/2017 - 14:44. I cam home ( after working out for an hour feeling worse ) and told my mom and she took my temperature and it was like 104 degrees!! But still, if I do get sick and need something, he's there, doing whatever. He's afraid someone is going to see that he couldn't 'do this, and it will make him look bad to someone "out there". Ive had back and chest pain on and off becoming more frequent. Lately he finds more reasons than not to leave the house to help someone else anybody else. There's lots of reasons he may have decided to not come over, and 99% of them aren't the selfish stuff you're thinking of. WebIt is not a crime to not care for a spouse when they are sick. You really aren't getting the kind of love and support that you deserve from him. Thats Here is another way to think about it. Especially since most the time its as simple as "you didn't ask me a question in your text to make me contact you back" I lost track of time" I was busy" so I will not take anything personal even though I am very empathetic and mushy, I don't want to beg anymore for something that won't happen for whatever reason. Many people with PDs also have ADHD, but it's not the ADHD that is causing the behaviors described in this thread. WebMy (soon to be) ex wife had little sympathy whenever I was sick, and honestly it really sucked. So it's easier when you can say, "ok 20% sucks if I let it but 80% is fabulous". Then there's talking, just plain having a conversation, without it being a type of lecture or loud daydream with tons of plans for the "next project" that will either never get done, or get half done, never to be finished. Well, then, I say. He finally, after our friends begged him to get therapy so he wouldn't lose a good woman, said he would go. If you live together, your partner may want to sleep in their own bed with you. Kids pick up on stuff they're not ****ed. Now he is fine with it, he got used to it and I feel its because I did not cave in to the codependency. NOTHING HELPED. Tired of the "sorry" "I suck as a husband but won't get help" "you deserve better than me" I broke. In the second, you instell a desire to avoid you, not connect. Jason and Maria want something entirely different out of the same marriage. When he's not sleeping, he's making random 'sick' noises like sighing, Because, recently he told me, he was "never IN LOVE with me", which changes this whole scenario for me TOTALLY. Interesting. And, when I'm not 100%, then he's not being cared for. I can see how the advocated plan/tricks might work to create connection. Please share ~ the relief is amazing! Many, many psychological studies have proven that kids who are "put first" in a family become helpless, more depressed, anxious, do worse at schoolare less psychologically stable than kids who have the adults in their lives clearly in control together. In preparation, he never did set up a way to communicate with her (In the entire last year), did not reach out to her before or after the surgery. You carry on, steady through the storm. I have been happily married for 22 yrs. It's not even his fault because stupid idiot "women" like you let men like him treat you like crap. I didn't nag on him, or hate him, or unkind. Even though we were engaged and had a date set, I still shouldn't have gotten pregnant, and THAT action left me with something that I would have to deal with the rest of my life. Your partner sounds as if he's not good at transitions (i.e. to stand on my own and realize that until he gets help, this will not change and so it was time to live and grow and be "the mistress of my domain and my life". I am, however, hesitant, super hesitant, to engage when 90 percent of what comes out of his mouth is a lie. Have enough respect without ego to treat yourself with a non-toxic man or woman. This is daunting to say the least. Lets look at the options: 1. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:36. I have no compassion in my heart for this and I have no means to find it or excuse this as anything more than totally Fucked Up Shit!!! I hope he gets the help he needs! Narcissistic SpouseDoesnt Care whether You Live Or Die. But the AD/HD is so strong, it overrides that. It sucks but thats what it is. He wrote me a letter saying how he fell in love in college, and she left him, and he didn't want to feel "that hurt" again, so he basically shut "that part" of himself down, so that he wouldn't FEEL that. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. I think so. Submitted by tiredmomma1 on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 12:12. I guess it could be that old saying of, 'Whatever you fear you create". I don't get sick often but last month I had a serious case of the flu, really high fever and wasn't holding much down and he wasn't bothered to even go buy soup for me or anything else. That is my story for anyone that can benefit from it. My husband had the worst tantrum in front of a third person. Don't misunderstand me - I get it. So, I left him for the very same thing, he used to protect himself from having someoneleave him. He just gets on his computer. Or pulled a muscle in my back. 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